Moving a loved one into memory care ranks among life's most emotionally complex decisions. It’s a decision you know is necessary for their safety and well-being, yet the guilt and grief can often feel overwhelming. As you drive through Forsyth County contemplating this change, you're torn between relief that professional care will provide the safety and support your family can no longer manage at home and heartache that this transition marks an undeniable shift in your relationship. At Arbor Terrace South Forsyth in Suwanee, we’re here to tell you we understand that smooth transitions don't happen by accident. They require thoughtful preparation, compassionate support, and partnership between families and care teams.
Let’s take a brief look at how you can achieve this and guarantee the best possible move for your loved one.
Before addressing the practical aspects of moving your loved one into a memory care community, it's essential to acknowledge the emotional reality that families throughout Cumming and Forsyth County face during this transition. For example, you’ve probably been experiencing conflicting emotions that can feel impossible to reconcile.
Most families report feeling profound relief when they finally make the decision to move their loved one into memory care. The constant worry about safety evaporates. The exhaustion from 24-hour caregiving begins to lift. You can sleep through the night without listening for your parent wandering.
Yet this relief often triggers intense guilt. How can you feel relief about "putting your parent in a home"? Shouldn't you be able to care for the person who raised you? These questions plague even the most devoted adult children, creating an emotional paradox that can be difficult to navigate.
Here's the truth that families eventually discover: relief and love coexist perfectly. Feeling relief that professional dementia care will provide the specialized support your loved one needs doesn't mean you love them less. It means you love them enough to ensure they receive care that goes beyond what you can sustainably provide at home.
Many caregivers are surprised to discover that the transition to memory care is often more difficult for family members than for residents themselves. People with dementia may actually welcome the move because it eliminates many sources of stress they were experiencing at home, such as the confusion about managing daily tasks, the tension in family relationships as caretaking strained connections, and the isolation of being home alone when family members worked or needed respite.
You can find better peace of mind with the knowledge that when your loved one arrives at Arbor Terrace, they’ll gain structured routines that reduce confusion, meaningful social engagement with peers, specialized activities designed for their individual cognitive abilities, and trained staff who understand how to communicate effectively with people experiencing memory loss. All of these elements work together to improve mood and reduce anxiety more effectively than home settings, where demands often exceed capabilities.
The initial adjustment period to memory care typically spans two to six weeks, though every individual adapts on their own timeline. Understanding what's normal during this transition helps families stay calm when challenges arise.
First off, try to keep moving day as calm and simple as possible. Bring your loved one to Arbor Terrace South Forsyth or your chosen memory care community after their apartment has been set up with furniture and familiar belongings already in place. Walking into a space that looks somewhat like home reduces anxiety compared to arriving at an empty apartment.
It’s helpful not to make moving day an all-day event. After arrival, spend an hour or two helping your loved one settle in, meeting neighbors, and ensuring they're comfortable. Then it’s best to leave before exhaustion sets in for either of you. Staff members trained in dementia care know how to help new residents through those first hours better when family members aren't hovering nervously nearby.
Also, try to resist the urge to sneak out without saying goodbye, even if your loved one becomes upset when you leave. Brief, honest goodbyes preserve trust better than disappearing mysteriously. "I'm going home now, but I'll visit again soon!" provides clear communication even if your loved one won't remember the conversation five minutes later.
During the first week, your loved one is orienting to new surroundings, meeting staff and residents, and learning new routines. This adjustment period often looks messy. Your family member might seem confused, upset, or repeatedly ask to go home. They might not eat much or participate in activities. This is normal.
To help during this emotional time, staff at Arbor Terrace are trained to support new residents through this orientation period. They'll gently redirect when your loved one asks to go home, encourage participation in activities without forcing it, and help establish comforting routines. Their expertise in managing these transitions often produces better outcomes than well-meaning but inexperienced family members trying to fix every upset.
Many families find that visiting daily during the first week provides reassurance for both the resident and family members. It’s a good idea to keep visits relatively short—30 to 45 minutes often works better than marathon visits that can exhaust everyone. You can also time your visits during activities or meals so your loved one sees you participating in their new life rather than just sitting in their apartment.
After the initial shock of change wears off, the real adjustment happens during weeks two through six. Your loved one begins recognizing staff members, developing preferences for certain activities, and forming connections with other residents. They're learning the daily rhythm of life at their new home, and it becomes more of a comforting space.
This phase still involves ups and downs. Some days will go smoothly. Others will feel like setbacks. Your loved one might still ask to go home or seem sad during visits. These reactions don't mean the transition has failed however, as they're normal parts of a major life change for someone with cognitive impairment.
Staff members will also be learning your loved one's patterns, preferences, and triggers during this time. They're discovering whether morning or afternoon works better for bathing, which foods encourage eating, what activities pique their interest, and how to redirect when confusion or anxiety escalates. This learning process takes time and patience, but your loved one is well worth the effort.
Moving your loved one into memory care doesn't mean stepping back from their life, but rather shifting your role from exhausted caregiver to engaged family member who can actively enjoy time together.
As mentioned previously, in the first few weeks, frequent shorter visits often work better than less frequent marathon visits. As your loved one adjusts, you can settle into a sustainable visiting pattern that works for your schedule and your family member's needs.
Many families find that visiting two to three times per week for an hour or two provides good connection without becoming overwhelming. Others visit daily but keep visits brief. There's no single right answer, but to make things easier work with Arbor Terrace South Forsyth staff to identify what seems to work best for your loved one.
We find it’s also helpful to time visits strategically. Come during activities you can participate in together, during meals to share the dining experience, or during times of day when your loved one typically feels most alert and engaged. It’s best to avoid showing up during care times like bathing or medication administration when your presence might actually increase confusion or resistance.
Rather than just visiting your loved one in their apartment, participate in the community's life. Attend special events, join activity sessions, share meals in the dining room. This involvement helps you see the fuller picture of your family member's days and creates shared experiences to talk about during visits.
When you participate in activities alongside your loved one, staff members also see how you interact and can learn techniques that work well for communication and engagement.
As dementia progresses, communication challenges often increase. It’s important to focus on being present rather than conducting interrogations about what they did that day or testing whether they remember your last visit. Sit with them in comfortable silence and look at family photos together or take a walk around the community. You could also listen to their favorite music. Simple shared experiences like these are often the most effective way to provide meaningful connection, instead of conversations attempting to orient them to facts they can't retain.
When your loved one tells stories that aren't factually accurate or asks repeatedly about deceased relatives, it’s probably a good idea to resist the urge to correct or provide facts. Enter their reality with validation and emotional truth. If your mom asks when her mother (deceased for 30 years) is coming to visit, you might say "You must miss your mother" rather than "Mom died in 1995." This validation honors their emotional experience without creating unnecessary distress.
The decision to move your loved one into memory care represents one of life's most difficult choices. However, it’s a good reminder that the guilt, grief, and worry you're experiencing are completely normal responses to a heartbreaking situation. You're not failing your parent or spouse by acknowledging that dementia care requires professional expertise and 24-hour support that you cannot sustainably provide at home.
Here's what families consistently report after making this transition: the constant, exhausting worry that kept them awake at night diminishes. The relationship with their loved one actually improves because time together no longer involves battles over medication, bathing, or safety concerns. They can be present as family members rather than overwhelmed caregivers—which often brings moments of genuine connection that had disappeared under the strain of home caregiving.
At Arbor Terrace South Forsyth, we've supported thousands of families through these transitions over The Arbor Company's 30-plus years of experience. We understand that smooth transitions require partnership, patience, and proven approaches tailored to each individual. Our specialized dementia care team brings expertise that transforms what could be a traumatic upheaval into a supported journey toward fully personalized safety, engagement, and improved quality of life for your whole family.
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